Journey towards Modesty

A glimpse into my pilgrimage for a more modest life

My New Kitty March 13, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — teartaye @ 9:12 PM

We got a kitty!


His name is Mellow. We’re not sure how old he is, but he’s not full grown yet.

He thinks that the toilet flushing is the most amazing thing ever!


He also enjoys being held up to see into the filling washing machine, or a sink full of dirty dishes. And he’ll watch you shower and peer into the dryer when it’s open.


Of course, kitten-like, he adores dangling strings and such. His favourite toys, thus far, are an empty cardboard box, an empty paper bag (with handles! oooh handles!) and a tag, duct taped up, and tied to a string.

We’re thinking of getting him a harness, since he adores exploring so much, and then he could explore outside as well. Yay kitty walks!


Goals and Washing Dishes – Metaphor March 10, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — teartaye @ 7:57 PM

So, this is kinda silly but it has been rattling around my brain for the last couple of weeks so I figured I’d post it.
A long term goal, represented by cleaning the kitchen/washing dishes:

I want in…
5 years: To have a clean kitchen
1 year: To have washed all of the dishes
6 months: To have washed all of the dishes except the pots/pans
1 month: To have washed all of the cutlery
1 week: To have washed all of the forks
Today: To have washed this fork

So yeah, kinda silly, but I like it so humph! (And no, I don’t expect it to take me 5 years to clean my kitchen 😛 That’s why it’s a metaphor!)

It’s a nice reminder to live in the moment. I’ve been trying to remember that, after I decide which ‘section’ of dishes (all the plates, or bowls, or cups, etc.) next, I don’t need to worry about anything other than the particular dish I’m working on. It’s very zen-like. And it’s a nice stepping stone for me, because I’m horrible at living in the moment. I worry. I don’t think “clean this fork” I think “After I do this fork I need to finish all the cutlery then do that plate I forgot then do this pan, then I should probably do this pot next, or maybe this” (this applies to other areas of my life too). All in all, it makes doing dishes (or anything) much more stressful than it needs to be, so I’m working on changing it.

This ends my rambles!


Paying Someone to do the Work – repost March 7, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — teartaye @ 4:14 AM

I have a confession to make.

Part 1: I cleaned the bathroom today (big whoop)

Part 2: It was the first time I’d ever, ever cleaned a house-bathroom on my own.

Sure, I’ve cleaned bathrooms before, at work and such. Though not very well, since no one ever showed me how to do it.

Since my mom worked (she has a lot of reasons, I think it boils down to the fact that she never trusted that my dad wouldn’t leave and that she wanted more money than he could provide) full time, they fought about who would manage the housework. How it was divided. In the end they decided to hire someone.

Now, first of all the company that they hired did a real crappy job of cleaning.

Secondly, I was about 11 or 12 when this occurred and I only dusted and cleaned the windows. I would have been willing to learn more, but was never taught.

So the result was an unclean house and an adult moving out for the first time who couldn’t really cook; didn’t really know how to wash dishes (or even load a dishwasher); didn’t know how to vacuum, sweep, or mop; clean the kitchen, or bathroom; and who didn’t know anything about regular maintenance (like cleaning the oven, or washing doors).

Or, to sum it up, you had an 18 year old living with roommates who knew how to dust and clean windows/mirrors.

All in all, I felt pretty worthless when that picture became clear.

I just can’t understand, now, how not making me do housework has benefited me in any clear way.  I’m rather ignorant when it comes to housekeeping, I felt like an idiot when I ‘fessed up to my roommate that I didn’t know how to clean X and had him show me, and I have issues with laziness and discipline becaues I didn’t have a chance to develop either when I had someone to help keep me on track (“nag”).

And, I wonder, how many children are being allowed to “roam free”? How many parents are frowned upon and critizised for making their “babies” do a little work around the house? It just doesn’t make sense to me.

Abuse is one thing, but letting the kids slack (or worse, taking all their time up with activities… that’s another post though) is too far in the other direction. Is there a happy medium? Can children be taught basic housework without it being “child labour”? or some such nonsense. Surely.

Your thoughts?